Tinashe’s song “Nasty,” which debuted in April, has sparked a social media frenzy. By May, a viral tweet on X posed a thought-provoking question: “Who are 2 people that did match each other’s freak?” The tweet inspired a wave of pop culture references, including a humorous nod to Sarah Jessica Parker’s character Carrie from “Sex and the City” with the caption, “and I couldn’t help but wonder… is somebody gonna match my freak?”
Match My Freak Trends on TikTok
On TikTok, countless videos feature users stitching various clips and versions of the song. One video humorously shows a user searching for love in a lavish garden landscape, captioned: “Me trying to find someone to match my freak.” Another video features a TikTok user and her sister with the caption: “Is somebody gonna match my freak (my sister is the only human I know whose parents got divorced and then remarried years later).” These social media trends resonate deeply, prompting introspection and a universal question: Aren’t we all just looking for someone to “match our freak”?
Embrace Your Freak Flag
We all have unique quirks that define us. Maybe you watch “Real Housewives” while getting ready for work, take a cold shower after a hot one, or listen to the same Taylor Swift album on every run. These peculiar habits make us who we are, and as long as they don’t harm us or others, they’re worth celebrating.
Sharing these quirks with others can be daunting. Vulnerability, whether with friends, family, or romantic partners, requires time and trust. Relationship experts emphasize the importance of communication; no one can read your mind, so expressing your needs is crucial. Letting your freak flag fly, so to speak, may take practice and courage.
Seeking professional help can be beneficial if fear of romantic relationships or social interactions is holding you back. “If someone is worried and finds social interactions awkward or uncomfortable, there are coaches and therapists who can help employ exercises,” says Courtney Watson, a licensed marriage and family therapist. Therapy can also help address unresolved traumas, paving the way for healthier relationships.
The Truth About Matching Love Languages
Even after working through personal challenges, finding someone who “matches your freak” can be different for everyone. It’s not necessarily about having the same love language but rather about mutual respect and understanding. Millennial Therapist columnist Sara Kuburic notes, “If your love languages don’t ‘match,’ it just means you need to be more intentional and aware, but it doesn’t mean the relationship can’t work.”
Effective communication is key to maintaining a healthy relationship. If you feel your love language isn’t being met, discuss it with your partner before it turns into resentment. Matching someone’s freak exactly isn’t essential; what matters is finding a partner who accepts and loves you for who you are, quirks and all. “It’s wonderful to be with someone who will approach our humanity and shortcomings with compassion and acceptance – and encourage us to do the same,” Kuburic adds.